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Insights and resources for helping children navigate divorce, two homes, and co-parenting

A Children's Book That Solves One of Divorce's Hidden Burdens

For Family Law Professionals

When seven-year-old Emma started counting her hugs—two for mom, two for dad, exactly even—her mother knew something was wrong. But she didn't know what to call it, or how to help.

This is the invisible weight countless children of divorce carry: the exhausting work of keeping their love perfectly balanced between two homes. Olive and the Secret of the Pies offers both a name for this phenomenon and a remarkably effective solution—one that family law professionals can put directly into the hands of their clients.

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The Fairness Burden: A Therapeutic Tool for Children of Divorce

For Therapists and Counselors

Eight-year-old Marcus sat across from me, methodically explaining his system. He'd spent three hours at Dad's house last weekend, so this weekend he'd need to spend exactly three hours at Mom's to "make it fair." When I asked what would happen if he couldn't balance the equation, his face crumpled. "Then Mom would think I don't love her as much."

If you work with children of divorce, you've met Marcus. Olive and the Secret of the Pies offers a therapeutic tool that names the problem, provides a memorable reframe, and gives children permission to stop the exhausting work of emotional mathematics.

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